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5 Things Every Parent Should Know for the Start of the School Year

It's the start of the School Year.

Nooooooo! My children cry in horror, seeing a crisp, new notebook peeking out of our shopping bag.

For some of us this is nothing new, we've done this before. We've been there, done that. And sometimes can even tap into our memories of our first days of a new school year.

For others, this is the first time you are sending your precious babies out into the cold, cruel world of school.

But for those of you that are even more nervous about this than your little one, here are 5 bits of wisdom that we, as teachers and school staff, would like every parent to know about preparing for the first day of school. Whether this is your first ever first-day-of-school, or you are a practiced veteran.

1. Keep Calm and Carry On
Easily said right? For a majority of children, the first day of school is filled with excitement and anxiety. Often, they are also nervous. And this is totally normal.

Whether this is their first day ever in a school setting, or they are switching schools, or just moving up a grade in their old school, the first day has a lot of unknown elements. New classroom. New friends. New teacher. New subjects. New expectations. New everything.

However, I can tell you that very often, the parents we see are far more nervous than the children.

They are jittery and uncertain. Some of them practically vibrate with anxiety. They don't know what to do or where to go or when to leave. In case of preschoolers, sometimes, the parents don't know even IF they should leave.

But the most important thing to remember is; kids pick up on that.

The more nervous you are, the more nervous your kids get about school. (Or the doctor's office, or visiting Aunt Gladys, or going on a trip.) They pick up on all our emotions and energy; and will mirror those emotions back to us.

How can you prepare your child for their first day of school now? Remind them of all the neat things they saw in their new school. Make a story about what they will learn and the books they will read and the kinds of kids they might meet. Help them practice introducing themselves to another child. "Hi, my name is _______, what's yours? Want to play?"

I always recommend that parents practice some self-care before start of the school year. Meditate. Get a good night of sleep. Take deep breaths. Repeat to yourself, "This will all be okay."

Yes, some kids will cry that first day – no matter how old they are. And little ones may continue to cry the second, third or the fifteenth day. But they do stop crying. Often within 5 minutes of when you leave.

It's awful when your last view of your child that first day is a face that is red and streaked with tears. Or one close to tears that your "big" girl or boy is stoically managing to hold in. But please know that we, their teachers, stem those tears and help them make friends in their class. In no time, your child will be racing into their classroom without even looking back at you. This brings me to Point #2…

2. Your Teacher is Going to Love Your Child
Really. We are going to absolutely adore your little boy and girl. There is nothing that we want more for your child than to be happy and feel loved and safe and to develop a love of learning.

This is true of every teacher we look to hire at KidsFirst. They want your child to learn and to love learning. They want to know your child and see them blossom into wonderful people.

Believing in the teacher's positive regard for your child will help you as a parent to step back and let your child develop their own relationship with their teacher.

In an article on, counselor Linda Lendman says, "This is one of the first relationships with an adult your child may have outside the family unit. If you take a back seat and let the relationship develop without much interference, a special bond may develop."

Year after year, developing this unique bond with each new teacher, teaches them about building relationships with other adults. It tells them what a positive adult-child relationship should be. It shows them that it's not just their parents who will be there to guide and care for them.

3. Write a Story
One thing I tell all my new parents at the preschool is to help your child write a positive story about their first day at school.

I'm not talking about sitting down and physically writing a story about a little boy or little girl who is going to school. This kind of story is written by cozying up to them at bedtime or in the morning and having quiet, wandering talks with them.

It helps if they have met their teacher or visited the school during orientation. From the time my boys started pre-school till today, I lay down with my boys before the first day of school and remind them about how nice their new teacher seemed. I talk to them about the nice things they saw. They tell me everything they are looking forward to during the new year.

This will work not only for preschoolers and kindergarteners, but it also helps your brand new middle and high schoolers. Of course, your high schooler might not be willing to cuddle with you, but try taking a walk or going on a long drive with them instead. I have the best conversations with my kids while we are out for a walk or drive.

4. Make Success a Routine
A few days before the first day of school we start trying to head towards what will be their regular bedtime and waking up time. They whine and complain and accuse us of being party-poopers, but when that first day of school comes around getting them into and out of bed is so much easier. Which makes falling into the full school routine with homework and after school activities that much easier.

Successful people have a routine. Why? Because having a routine builds good habits and reduces the amount of energy needed to figure out what to do next. Lots of people find that having a morning and evening routine propels them forward into having a good day.

For kids, having a routine is doubly important. A routine – knowing what comes next in their day – gives children a sense of safety. It encourages them to take charge and be independent within those routines.

It also reduces nagging from Mom and Dad. Jimmy knows that when he gets out of bed he is to get dressed and then go to the kitchen for breakfast. Even the 18-month-olds in my preschool know that after snack they get their diapers changed or sit on the potty and then change their shoes to go outside to play. So, no matter how old your kids are, start working on establishing those routines asap.

The two most horrifically difficult times in my house are bedtime and wake-up time. I found the easiest way to end all those morning battles is by having a routine established before the first day of school.

Taking time to establish a solid morning and after school routine will save you oodles of time in the future. Wake up, dress, have breakfast, brush teeth. Once it's part of the routine each task snowballs into the next. And the fights are (mostly) non-existent.

5. Grades Aren't Everything
Last year I got way too caught up in my boys' grades. Did you get an A on this? Why didn't you get 100% on that? I just knew that they were smart enough to get all As. More than that I wanted their teachers to validate my belief that they were smart.

During this summer though, I unearthed my 7th grade report card in a box of stuff that my mom had sent me. There were barely any A's.

Yet, I didn't remember feeling stupid or like I was a bad student in middle school. In fact, I remember learning a lot and feeling really smart. Could it be that the grades I received didn't actually reflect how much I had learned?

Grades and learning are two separate things.

In her book, The Gift of Failure, Jessica Lahey writes, "Learning is the key to understanding our world, and the universe beyond… Grades are the key to certain academic institutions and a few office doors."

It occurred to me that a majority of my grades and my son's grades represented our executive functioning levels – turning in homework, self-discipline in class, and how well we were able to express our thoughts – and not how much we actually learned in the class.

When I spoke to him I found that he had actually learned a ton in his classes. He was proud of how much his writing had improved. He could tell me in great detail about water testing and ecosystem science. He was able to explain Algebra in a way that his little brother could understand.

School is a long-haul commitment. Between kindergarten and college, you have 13 fun-filled years to go.

Grades are only one very small indicator of how smart your child is, and tells you very little about how far they may go in life.

Resolve to make this a great school year for your kids. And start it with a bang! Good luck!

by Malinda Carlson.


Did You Know. . .

  • KidsFirst has an "open door policy." This means parents can visit or call anytime, without notice.
  • KidsFirst play areas have cushioned floors and walls to avoid fall injuries and encourage first steps.
  • All KidsFirst babies – to 18 months – have their own cribs with their names; cribs are never shared.

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